I Want It NOW! The Psychology of Goal Setting

Rome wasn’t built in a day.

Goal setting for long term goals can be daunting – often because we feel like we are not achieving them quick enough, which disempowers, demoralises and demotivates us. The bigger the gap between Where We Are Now, and Where We Want To Be, the more challenging it is for us to take that first step. It is also more challenging to stay on track when we receive our first setback.

But most things that are truly valuable to us take time to create. A dream house, better job, life project, great relationship, ideal body – none of these things are created by a quick fix or by taking shortcuts. If we do somehow manage to create them that way, they tend to get taken away from us just as quickly as we got them.

Nothing Good lasts forever. But then again, neither does anything Bad.

We think we want things now, but if we actually got them that way, how could we be grateful for them? For its only by NOT having something that we can understand the true VALUE of actually having it. Imagine for a moment if you could click your fingers and automatically have a massive salary, have explored the world, a huge house, the perfect partner, a sexy, toned body.. 

How long would you be happy for with those things? How long would it be until you wondered, “What’s Next?” How grateful would you be if it cost you nothing and you put in no effort to achieve those milestones?

Part of the excitement is the notion of ‘getting closer’ from Where You Are Now to Where You Want To Be. Part of the thrill is by achieving the mini milestones on the way to the Big One. Interestingly, it is this feeling which stimulates us to keep going. It is when we can tangibly see that we are making progress that we carry on in the face of adversity.

So instead of giving up on your dreams, pursue them step by step. Appreciate the completion of every bite sized piece. Break down the target of your focus into manageable chunks. Give yourself a timeframe to achieve those chunks. Take action NOW on Chunk Number 1. Get the ball rolling. Gather momentum.

In reference to time management and goal setting, the late Stephen R. Covey said to “Start with the End in mind.” The logic is by having a clearly defined goal and contemplating what that would be like, it becomes easier to identify what steps you need to take in order to get there. However, I would add to his advice by saying, “Act NOW with whatever step you think is first.”

Otherwise, the goal will always remain a construct of your imagination, and not be made real in your reality.

Above all, remember that sometimes we are so focussed on the destination that we forget to enjoy the journey. Don’t let that be you.

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About the Author: Dale Ingram is the Business Development Manager of Revival and General Manager of Papilio System. He is trained in various Mind/Body/Spirit and subconscious reprogramming modalities such as PSYCH-K, NLP, Reiki, Light Dynamics and others. He speaks publicly and is passionate about raising awareness of the Power we have within ourselves to make Change in our lives.