Do We Know How To Love? Or Just Think We Do?

When you look at this image, what do you see?

Innocence? Purity? Tolerance? Playfulness?

Unconditional Love?

What happened to us? What is it about growing up that makes us judge and oppose others? That makes every relationship between a male and a female have sexual innuendo or connotations? If not by the relationship itself, then by the judgements of others outside of the relationship?

Why do we distort this purity? Why do we cling on to our painful past? Why do we make it a dog eat dog world, when there was a time for all of us that was as pure and as harmonious as the picture you see here?

There are some ideologies that say “Love is All There Is. Everything else is an Illusion.”

Whether true or not, what has merit is that babies love everything unconditionally, even things that are dangerous to them.

It loves its mother. Regardless of her flaws.

It loves its father, and embraces his imperfections.

It loves every animal, even those that are aggressive towards it.

It loves strangers on the street, and trusts all humans implicitly.

It loves things UNCONDITIONALLY.

As we get older, we distort this innocence. We get hurt. We close off and expect others to hurt us, rationalising that if we get hurt, then at least it wasn’t out of the blue, and perhaps would be more manageable. We protect ourselves. We insulate our hearts.

Yet we say we love people unconditionally…

But we try to control them. We tell them what we think they should do. We tell them what we think they should say. We tell them how we think they should behave.

And we convince ourselves that we are doing this for THEM. But are we really? Or are we justifying this to hide from the uncomfortable truth – that we love them CONDITIONAL to them acting within the boundaries of who we want them to be, in order to satisfy us.

Which is not love at all. At least, not in the sense that is shown in this photo.

Just for a day, return to that childlike innocence. Appreciate the flaws of your loved ones. Let them be Free from your judgement. Love them with the same curiosity and wonder as a baby meeting someone new for the first time.

What we don’t realise is this judgement of others and this perceived need to have them act in the way we want them to not only damages the relationship between you and them – it damages you. Within yourself.

Return to the you that was present when you entered into this world. Find that innocence again. That unabashed, unadulterated, unlimited love for all things.

Let go of the need to control others. Love them for where they are on their personal journey through life. Love their perfection, inherent within their imperfections.

And watch as your tension, worry and anxiety dissipate into nothingness, as you return to the space you are always were but was cloaked with doubt and fear – the limitless love of your heart.


About the Author: Dale Ingram is the Business Development Manager of Revival and General Manager of Papilio System. He is trained in various Mind/Body/Spirit and subconscious reprogramming modalities such as PSYCH-K, NLP, Reiki, Light Dynamics and others. He speaks publicly and is passionate about raising awareness of the Power we have within ourselves to make Change in our lives.